Fears are crippling, and they can prevent us from living a full life. No other fear can cripple the same way this one does. It can ruin the relationships that make life worth living. One must get over their fear of commitment to truly love anyone, and commit to being loved in return.
Instructions
1. Seek help, or take a good look at your past, to find the root of the phobia. A professional can help you delve into your past, but for most, a fear of commitment stems from parents, siblings or friends who have had tumultuous relationships or marriages.
2. Search around. For many men and women, the fear of commitment is hard to get over for just anyone. Some find that when they meet the right person, their fears seem to dissipate. The key is not to settle just so that you are with someone, find the right one with which to settle down.
3. Realize that the fear of commitment may because of a fear of getting hurt. The life one leads with no love or companionship is often much worse that one that is filled with love, and yes, hurt. It is human to feel love and pain, and denying yourself of these feelings out of fear is like self mutilation.
4. Make your wishes to take things slow clear to anyone you date. For guys, this may mean no talk of the future or marriage until you are ready. For girls, it can mean the same thing, but it can also mean not moving in together too soon.
5. Take a long look at your past relationships with people you really cared about. When you sabotage relationships with others to avoid getting too attached, you are lying to yourself. Instead of acting in a way that will ruin every relationship you are in, talk about your fear of commitment in order to get over it.
6. Start small. A fear of commitment is also a fear of making promises that you feel you may not be able to deliver on. Begin with small promises, like being home or at dinner at a certain time. Then, you can move onto larger promises that carry more weight.
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